People’s deepest desires are to be loved and accepted. That’s why feeling rejected hurts so much. Nobody is so lucky to feel only love, acceptance, and respect from others. Most of us have felt betrayed at some point in our life. After those painful experiences, we find it hard to trust again fully.
Every Relationship Has The Power To Change Us
Every relationship that we have has the power to change the way we see ourselves. If we are treated badly by those we love the most, then we might feel that we are guilty and that we don’t deserve to be respected. We have these beliefs because we trust that they love and respect us truly.
This helps us understand why children that have parents who didn’t express love towards them, become adults who are insecure and without self-compassion. Also, when we are criticized by our romantic partners, we believe what they say is true.
Sometimes we might need a lot of time to realize that we don’t deserve to be treated poorly. With time, you will understand that you are not a damaged person, but only a victim of a betrayal.
Anyway, you should not allow feelings of resentment and anger to take control over you. At first, you will probably have negative feelings about yourself, but after you become aware that you are not the guilty one, then you turn all the negative feelings towards those who hurt you.
Don’t Allow The Pain To Destroy You
Pain can easily bring us down. When our hearts feel painful, we have no energy, as we become occupied by negative feelings and thoughts. In these moments, it is very hard for us to realize that we live in a negative circle and we need to get out of it as soon as possible.
When you finally accept the fact that people’s words and behavior towards you speak about them, not about you and your personality, you will feel more at peace. Usually, those who are victims themselves, tend to hurt others too.
Therefore, try your best to find out what personal experience in his/her life brought so much pain to him/her. When you know how they feel, it will be easier for you to forgive them.
It is also true that nobody has access to your heart unless you let them. This is not easy, but you need to learn how to protect your heart and whom you can trust.
After heartbreak, your life will never be the same again. But this doesn’t mean you have no control over your life. It is up to you to choose how this pain will affect you and your personality. Will you let it kill you or make you stronger?