As we go through our life, we learn and evolve – as our friends also do. As we continue to evolve, it is very important to be surrounded by friends who support us. Friends are supposed to be the ones who lift us up when we are sad and who support us.
A healthy friendship should be a safe space where you can share your inner feelings and opinions, feel lifted up rather than put down, be yourself. If you are feeling uncomfortable and unhappy, it may be high time to reflect on what is triggering your feelings. Keeping a friendship that puts you down can be harmful to your mental and emotional health.
Because of the changes that we make, it may be time to assess our friendships and find out which ones are still serving us.
Here are 5 types of friends that you do not need in your life:
The Complainer
It is burdensome to live in a world full of complaints. Something is always out of place. If we spend too much time with a complainer, we start complaining, too.
Complainers are filled with negativity. They always look at the negative side. It is really difficult to stay positive among complainers, as they drain your energy.
The problem with keeping a complainer in your life is that there is not anything that you can do to help them understand the problem. They do not see themselves as complainers, and they are resistant to positive thoughts and advice.
The Naysayer
Naysayers are everywhere around us. Whether it is a family member, a friend, or an acquaintance, they constantly live in a state of “no” or “nay”. Naysayers always respond with “no” and a list of reasons. Their criticism is unproductive and cynical.
You should know that there is a Naysayer syndrome, which represents an act of verbalizing someone`s fears instead of expressing concerns about another person or situation. As soon as we learn about this syndrome, we can easily determine who needs help.
Naysayers are afraid of leaving their comfort zone. They do not realize how we do what we do and are afraid to take risks. You may find yourself with this syndrome if you spend too much time with a naysayer.
The Doubter
The doubter is more dangerous than the naysayer because the doubter seems supportive but is threatening our efforts by doubting our ability to perform the challenge.
We start a project with a belief that we can do it successfully. If we come across some difficulties, we will figure them out. The biggest cause of quitting and failure is self-doubt.
They doubt our abilities because they doubt their own, and while they appear to be supportive, they actually want us to fail. They attack our character and ambition.
Get rid of doubters and surround yourself with friends who truly believe in you.
The Bragger
You can easily notice the bragger. Whenever they do something right, they make sure everybody knows it. Their need to brag constantly is a result of their low self-esteem. Even though it is necessary to give support to our friends, we cannot handle providing the support the bragger needs to feel worthy. They have to find it within themselves.
Our role as friends is to support them, not to get up caught up in the need to reassure them. If you pay more attention to somebody`s else achievements instead of achieving your own, you may need to cut out that friendship.
The Flaker
Being a flaker means paying more attention to answering a phone call in the middle of a conversation, posting a photo on Instagram, and interrupting somebody while they are speaking. They do not remember important dates, and after several reminders, they came up with an excuse.
Most people are flaky because they place a great value on their management skills and abilities.
We all have a flaker at some point in our life. Nevertheless, it is constant flakiness that will make you doubt the importance of your friendship.
True friends are important
We choose our friends. They should be here to encourage us, to support us, to lift us up when we feel down. Even though it is hard to get rid of harmful friends, their absence will help you to improve yourself and to let happier people enter your life.
